Sigma males don’t trust others easily. They are known for valuing their independence and liking to do things their own way. It’s not often that you see a sigma male get too close to another person, and they are not generally in the habit of spilling their secrets. This is because sigma males don’t like to feel that they rely on anyone but themselves to get by. An aversion to feeling dependent on others is what keeps sigma males sticking to themselves most of the time, but this is not true all of the time. Sigma males do possess the ability to form incredibly strong bonds with others, once those people have earned their trust. It’s not just anyone that a sigma male will come to trust, however, and there are a few must have traits you need to possess if you want to earn the trust of a sigma male. If you want to know what they are, read further – here’s how to earn a sigma male’s trust.
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Be honest
Sigma males have no time for dishonesty. They are very straight forward and to the point in how they handle things, and have very little interest in dealing with people who are dishonest or try to veil the truth. Sigma males have a very good radar for spotting dishonesty, and once they catch you in a lie, it can be almost impossible to win back their trust. The first thing to know about the trust of a sigma male is that it is difficult to earn, but can be easily broken. When it comes to avoiding this breach of trust, honesty really is the best policy. If you’re always honest with a sigma male, he will definitely take notice.
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Be 100% authentic
Sigma males have no capacity for putting on an act in order to “fit in” or gain respect or acceptance from their peers. They simply act as themselves without any pretences, and appreciate when others can do the same. Sigma males are not interested in playing the kind of social “games” that define the relationships of others on the social dominance hierarchy, such as alphas bossing others around, or betas trying to please the alphas. Instead, sigmas are more likely to offer their trust to someone they feel is being equally authentic and true to themselves as he is.
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Be patient
The trust of a sigma male is not earned in a day, so when getting to know one, it’s a relationship best approached with a great degree of patience. Sigma males are notorious overthinkers, and don’t rush into sharing their inner thoughts with another person. They like to feel that they know the other person well enough to trust them befroe they start opening up too much. Sometimes it can take years, even decades, to win the trust of a sigma male, so if it doesn’t happen instantly don’t beat yourself up about it. Once that trust is there, the patience will have been worth it, as sigma males make for some of the most loyal lifelong friends.
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Don’t be put off by high standards
Sigma males hold themselves to an incredibly high standard when it comes to their principles and their goals. A lot of the time, they can end up letting these high standards project on to the world around them, and sometimes their peers can sense this. If you’re trying to get close and win the trust of a sigma male, it’s best not to be put off if you notice that he holds high standards, and rather appreciate that as a good thing. His high standards stem from the fact that he knows he can always do better, and so too can everyone else.
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Be a good listener
As they are not the most vocal or expressive of people, to get close to a sigma male requires being a highly skilled listener. Sigma males don’t open up very often, especially with people they don’t know very well or haven’t known for very long. When they do open up, listen closely to what they’re saying, as it will always be honest and sincere. Listening carefully to a sigma when he opens up can reveal a lot, as these men are deeply reflective, and don’t let words out lightly.
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Engage in deep conversation
Despite being introverted in nature, sigma males love few things more than getting sucked into a deep and engaging conversation. They love to think things through as thoroughly as possible, and relish the opportunity to do so with another person. The high intelligence of the sigma male can make some people a bit afraid to get sucked in to really meaty conversations with them, but don’t be afraid of engaging in a bit of casual debate with a sigma male, as seeing that you’re willing to discuss and defend your opinions is something that sigma males respect highly and is a sure fire way to earn you more of his trust.
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Admit when you are wrong
Sigma males value growth very highly. They don’t run away from their mistakes or flaws, and relish any opportunity to reflect on where they’ve come from in order to keep making improvements. Sigma males continuously push themselves to improve throughout life, and this a big reason behind the fact that they so often find success in life. Their ability to adapt and overcome is one of their greatest assets in life, and something they appreciate being able to see in the company they keep around them. Showing a willingness to confront your own mistakes and admit when you are wrong is crucial in earning the respect and trust of a sigma male.
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Don’t use or manipulate others
As sigma males are lone wolves who choose to cast aside any dependency on the social dominance hierarchy, they are rarely seen to use others as a tool to get what they want in life. They rely solely on themselves when it comes to achieving their goals, and quite frankly don’t understand how other people can be so ruthlessly manipulative towards others. Because the sigma male devotes himself to getting what he wants for himself without relying on anyone else, seeing people use one another for personal gain is something cheap and unattractive in the eyes of the sigma male. Sigmas respect those who can get to where they want to be on the strength of their own spines, and are far more likely to trust those who refrain from using others for their own personal gain.
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Don’t be superficial
Superficiality is the bane of the sigma male’s life. He is totally and utterly bored by anything that operates superficially. Sigma males are rarely interested in keeping up small talk, exchanging pleasantries, or keeping up with passing trends in fashion or pop culture. Fickle trivialities are something that sigma males simply have no time for, and rejecting superficiality is one of the most important things a person can do in the hopes of winning the trust of a sigma male. Coming from a place of authenticity is something a sigma male can instantly spot, and will likely open him up to trusting you in a way that he could never truly trust someone he deems to be superficial.
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Don’t be afraid to challenge them
Sigma males absolutely love to be challenged in life. Both by themselves and their environments, sigmas relish the opportunity to spur themselves towards growth. Not everyone in life is so willing to embrace challenge, and many people would rather take the easy route out or avoid any kind of confrontation altogether. Sigmas like when the company they keep shares their positive attitude towards challenging themselves. When they see that the people around them are unfazed by challenge, and also see it as an opportunity for growth the same way they do, sigma males instantly feel more aligned, and are far more likely to build up a sense of trust.
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Be independent
Independence in life is perhaps the highest ranking of all of the sigma male’s priorities in life. Sigma males want to feel as totally free as possible, and that they have total responsibility over their own actions and destiny in life. Anything that attempts to tie down a sigma male will immediately set off alarm bells ringing in his head and ultimately serve to push him away. Sigma males prefer to cultivate relationships of mutual respect with people whose company they enjoy, with both people maintaining total independence. As dependency and clinginess are big no no’s for sigma males, demonstrating your own independence is a key step in earning the trust and respect of any sigma male.
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Value loyalty
As sigma males can take a long and cautious time before they truly trust someone, the loyalty that comes with that trust is particularly strong. Sigma males make for some of the most loyal friends out there, as their social circles are so small and carefully curated. Loyalty to his true friends lies at the heart of the sigma mentality, and it makes a big impact on a sigma male when he can see that his loyalty is valued and appreciated. Having a high appreciation for the loyalty that comes with a sigma male’s friendship is a key factor in earning his trust in the first place.
