By Halle Rider
The sigma male is the rarest male archetype and for good reason: he has many impressive traits which is why he finds himself at the top of the social hierarchy. Independent, adaptable and self-sufficient, he is an intelligent and self-secure free thinker with fantastic leadership skills and a thirst for knowledge. Having such a plethora of amazing qualities it may be hard to believe that he is, like the rest of us, still human – so here we are going to highlight eight of the sigma male’s flaws.
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He can be abrasive
The sigma male wouldn’t dream of intentionally being rude or insensitive, and while he doesn’t set out to make people uncomfortable, one of his flaws is that when it comes to social interaction he can come across as abrasive and has personality elements that can often rub people up the wrong way. The reason for this comes down to his introversion and rebellious nature. Being introverted means he often disregards many social customs naturally, and when we add to this his rebellious streak, his disregard for social etiquette becomes ever more compounded. As the type of man to break way from those social rules and expectations imposed on us, people may get the wrong end of the stick if they find themselves hanging out with a sigma male, and this can have the unfortunate consequence of impacting his future relationships and even business opportunities.
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He is a commitment-phobe
When it comes to relationships, one of the flaws of a sigma male is that he tends to avoid ever letting himself enter into a fully-fledged, committed relationship. This is simply because he doesn’t want to commit. Being in a committed relationship means having to compromise your own way of living to suit someone else’s needs, having to put someone else before yourself, having extra responsibilities and having a commitment not only to that other person but their social circle as well. So pretty much everything that goes against the ‘lone wolf’ mentality and introverted traits that make up a sigma male, who due to this is likely to come across as emotionally unavailable.
While it’s certainly not a bad thing to be single, in fact, one could argue it’s a necessary part of life in order to discover your true identity; but the flaw here is that the sigma male spends a lot of his life missing out on the magic of having a deep and meaningful, intimate connection with someone – he may miss out on the power of true love. That’s not to say he won’t ever experience something similar, but its more likely that if he does eventually find himself willing to commit it’s going to be to someone who understands him and lives in a similar way… like a sigma female.
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His public speaking skills
Public speaking seems like a daunting and nerve-wracking task to most people. But this applies even more so if you are a sigma male. As a natural introvert, it goes against the sigma nature to be thrust into a position where he has to ‘perform’ in the spotlight, with all eyes and ears on him as he takes centre stage. If this task is required of him, the sigma male just has to grit his teeth and step out of his comfort zone in order to accomplish it. While generally speaking the sigma male is keen to try new things and eager to put himself in unfamiliar situations understanding that by doing so he will continue to grow and evolve as a person, public speaking is something that really makes him feel uncomfortable, as it goes against every natural fibre of his being. If public speaking is something he must regularly do for his job, then it will start to take an emotional toll on him and he can start to lose his sense of identity. But the good news is that most sigma males won’t have to do much public speaking in their careers as they are more likely to be entrepreneurs and own their own business due to their independent self-starter personality. Or if he is in a career where public speaking is required of him, he’ll still do it well, but quickly work his way up to a top position where it won’t be expected of him.
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He needs a break to recharge
Alpha males can recharge and reenergise themselves with social interaction, but for the sigma male, one of his flaws is that social interaction drains him and in order to recharge his batteries he needs time alone. Although similar to alpha males in many ways, the sigma is the introvert of the two, and as such he finds that socialising just stresses him out. This isn’t to say he doesn’t enjoy socialising – he likes hanging out with friends just as much as the next guy, but socially he only truly comes to life when he is engaged in deep and meaningful conversation with another person who he connects with, not superficial chatter with a bunch of people. Even so, any type of extended socialising will start to drain the sigma male, and when it comes to regaining his energy, it is essential that he makes a space in his schedule after social occasions to have some time alone. If he doesn’t prioritise this time then he will easily become overwhelmed and won’t be able to function at full capacity which will take a toll on his work life and mental health.
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He can miss out on opportunities
Preferring to live a quieter, and less social kind of life, this can one the sigma male’s biggest flaws when it comes to business. He is an excellent businessman and likely to be very good at whatever it is he does, but his introverted personality and preference for isolation means he puts himself at risk of missing out on grabbing new business opportunities. This means that he will be less likely to grow his network of people and business acquaintances. Many great business opportunities come from networking, and there are people who swear by it for growing their own businesses, and even those who have become super successful in their fields who say they owe it all to networking and building their list of industry contacts. After all, as they say: it’s not what you know it’s who you know.
3
He is too conscious
The sigma male is a sensitive guy and conscious about the world and people around him – but sometimes this strength can become a flaw when he starts becoming too conscious. This can lead to increased social anxiety and the sigma male, who normally doesn’t care at all what others think, may start to become increasingly self-conscious which can lead him to spiral. It’s exhausting and overwhelming when we are worried about how others perceive us, and that anxiety just increases when you spend time around other people. The sigma male is a smart guy and is aware that his strength of a higher consciousness can become a flaw if he allows it to get out of control, as being hyper aware will restrict his ability to use his power of the subconscious mind. This is why the sigma male is likely to practice mindfulness or meditation in order to keep himself grounded and to avoid a negative downward spiral.
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He is fiercely loyal
Sigma males tend to be loyal to a fault, which is one of his most amazing traits. When it comes to close loved ones like his friends and family, there is nobody that they can trust more than him. It might take him a long time to let you into his very small social circle, but once he does he is fiercely loyal and will never betray you. This all sounds great, right? So where is the flaw? Well, the issue is that he likes to give people the benefit pf the doubt and can leave himself open to being taken advantage by letting the wrong people get close to him, such as those who don’t hold loyalty in such high regard and who fail to appreciate the unconditional support and care that the sigma male offers. This can cause a lot of emotional pain for the sensitive sigma male, and it can take him a while to recover from such betrayal. So while the sigma male’s loyalty is one of his best traits, it also means he has to make a conscious effort to be more discerning and selective of who he lets into his inner most circle and ultimately who deserves his loyalty.
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He is sensitive
The sigma male is a cerebral type of guy – he is introspective and likes to spend a lot of time inside his own head. So it can’t be of much surprise to know that he has a sensitive side. Now, this doesn’t mean he’s weak or any less masculine than the alpha and being sensitive is a great thing – but where it presents itself as a flaw is that it does mean that the sigma is prone to being negatively affected by people close to him, to take things a little more personally and at times feeling kind of attacked by the ones he loves. For instance if he has family members who try to sabotage him, try to bring him down, or a friend speaks to him in a condescending way trying to make him feel inferior, the sigma male is likely to be more reactive to this than the alpha male. However, this only applies to the sigma male’s close group of friends and family, the words and actions of strangers have no impact on him whatsoever.
